Carers – Well Eye Never

Carer’s Journal – November 2025 – Part 1

Welcome to the latest of my journal posts as an unpaid carer, and I’m happy to say that things are continuing to move in the right direction for my mother so far this month. I’ve taken her out in her new wheelchair a couple of times, the reablement care has come to an end so that we can get back into a proper routine, her sleep pattern has improved, and we’ve had another nice mental health appointment. I’ve explained more about all of that in my diary entries below, along with a few other bits and pieces.

In addition, I’ve also appeared on the radio during the past couple of weeks! Back in October I was interviewed by Amelia Hilton for RNIB Connect Radio about my experience of being a carer, in response to the posts I’ve been sharing about it, and it’s now been broadcast and shared online.

You can hear my interview as part of the Good Company Show from November 4, where I also pick a song that means a lot to me, or as a dedicated podcast. So I hope you find it interesting, and thank you so much to Amelia and the team for featuring my story!

I’ve had very kind comments about my caring role from other people as well recently, as you’ll see in these journal posts, which I’m humbled by and grateful for.

So let’s get on with the latest updates, and as always I hope you find it of interest.

Caring For Mum – Part 4 – Breaking Point

At the beginning of August I wrote about the decline in my mother’s physical and mental health, given her struggles to adapt to her blindness and the fact she was having a lot of falls, one of which had fractured her collarbone. And that in turn was impacting my own wellbeing, as I had to devote a lot more time and energy to her needs.

We were in a bad way at the time, with no certainty as to if, how or when things would get better, so that we could get back to some sense of a normal life. Several people have said they’ve found those posts very moving, and my friends have kept in close contact to ensure that I’m ok, for which I’m very grateful.

Shortly after making that trilogy of posts, things took a further turn for the worse, as Mum fell and broke her wrist. My big fear of things spiralling even more out of control appeared to have been realised.

However, alongside the stressful and lengthy recovery process, the incident also triggered a chain of events that have resulted in Mum receiving a lot more help and support than either of us expected, to such an extent that she’s now in a much more relaxed and positive state than I’ve seen her in for ages. It’s a shame that it took an accident to be the catalyst for all that support, but so far it seems to have been a bit of a blessing in disguise.

We’re not out of the woods yet, as she is still finding some things difficult, and I’m still having to spend a lot of time looking after her. So it is still tiring and stressful sometimes, there’s still a lot of stuff we need to sort out, and there will always be the risk of further setbacks. But we are getting through the days much more easily now, and we have greater hope and optimism for the weeks and months ahead, and all being well there should be more big developments by the end of the year.

So I want to reflect on our journey in the last few months, to bring things up to date. I have been writing extensive journal posts as well, but this is a good opportunity to summarise what’s been happening, and I hope you find it interesting.

Carer’s Journal – August 2025 – Part 2

In my recent post about the situation in early August, I recalled how my mother had been hospitalised for 6 days after falling and breaking her wrist (which followed on from the various other events I’ve written about previously).

She has now returned home, and naturally it’s been a difficult couple of weeks since then, because she hates being in a cast and unable to do much. But there has also been some help from carers, my aunt and a mental health specialist.

So here’s my latest update on how things have been going during the second half of the month, and I hope you find it insightful.

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